Do you notice?

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Whether it is the first year or years since your loved one died, not only do your thoughts remind you but your physical body can remind you as well.

Through personal experience and from listening to and observing others who have lost a loved one, I have noticed that even though you may feel you are fine, your body relays a different story.

When a significant occasion occurs, such as, an anniversary or a birthday, do you notice any unexplained physical symptoms, a sudden cold, feeling unwell, easily exhausted or agitated?

It may be that the significant occasion is a week or month away, so you do not relate the symptoms to this upcoming event. Therefore there seems no logical reason for these symptoms, as a few days ago you were feeling well, but now this morning you are tired and a little lethargic.

Through research, studies and body-based therapy, I support the belief that your body stores your biological (cellular) memories of both the good and bad events that occur throughout your life’s journey.

Although you continue on, you are reminded through these physical symptoms that you did experience an enormous loss and shock in your life when that someone special left your physical world.

These symptoms not only appear from the loss of a loved one. It can be from any major loss in your life. Divorce, losing your home, moving overseas or loss of a family pet.

Time may help distant that unfathomable pain but the memory will live on within you.

Be reassured that what you are feeling is normal but if the symptoms are unusually prolonged, maybe a visit to a health professional could be helpful.

 

 

Life throws Curve Balls

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A curve ball, no one knows where it will go!

Every now and then as you journey through life, you will be thrown a curve ball and generally when you least expect or need the disruption.  Often this curve ball happens just when you feel you are in the driver’s seat, your plans are all sorted and flowing.

Then boom, a curve ball is thrown, quick and fast, giving you no time to think, what the… where is this going? So what is the action plan to accommodate this sudden appearance of this curve ball into your well-organised plans, with minimal disruption?

Recently, I have been thrown a curve ball. I sit and think how do I make this situation work to the advantage of both parties, as this particular curve ball is possibly only short-term. Believing that everything happens for a reason, I allow only positive thoughts as I re-do my schedule, as what I learn from this curve ball may be invaluable.

When life throws you a curve ball or you hit an unexpected curve on your journey trust the outcome has a silver lining that will become visible as it unfolds.

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This particular curve ball is a gift, how I play it out is up to me.

Remedy to the rescue!

 

Rescue-Remedy-20ml-BottleBach Flower Remedies can provide you with the extra help you need to make it through difficult situations.

Rescue Remedy will help you stay calm during stressful situations such as accidents, examinations, when you’re feeling nervous, public speaking, after nightmares, or when you experience sudden shock or panic.

This pre-mixed Bach Flower remedy comes in a liquid, spray or pastilles form and can be carried in your handbag or pocket.

The remedy will help you stay in control and enable the body’s natural restorative powers to be activated immediately.

Rescue Remedy is a combination of five different remedies that address varying responses:

Cherry Plum – for loss of mental control, hysteria, panic

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     Clematis – for a stunned or bemused state of mind, faintness

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Impatiens – for impatience, irritability and agitation

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Rock Rose – for terror and fright

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Star of Bethlehem – for shock

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Rescue Remedy does not take the place of emergency medical attention but can help to ease shock and emotional reactions.

Find out more information about Bach Flower Remedies: http://www.tamleysgift.com.au/bach-flower-remedies/

“Photos courtesy of the Bach Centre”

 

Is it time to share?

Do you ever feel like you have to do everything yourself and that no-one cares?

Or do you just soldier on feeling more and more exhausted because you don’t believe your problems are important?

Sometimes can we feel embarrassed or uncomfortable when asking for someone’s help because we don’t feel worthy. But it may only be a five-minute conversation or just a few short words that can give you the strength and courage to carry on. It might even give you a fresh idea or the knowledge you need to face the challenge ahead.

Sharing with someone can be a good thing when you are coping with an impending loss or just want to get things straight and in perspective in your mind. Our imagination can run wild with worry of what may be ahead but someone else may be able to show you how your path may be cleared.

You can share your concerns and worries with an acquaintance, close friend, nurse, support group or someone who just happens to appear at the right time and is willing to listen to your story.

Sharing will help lighten your load and give you the support you need to carry on. It will also help you realise that you are not alone and many others have been on a similar journey.

Maybe you know someone right now who is facing a challenge and you can offer that short but valuable priceless gift of your time to help share their load, today.

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Painted Rocks

On a recent trip I came across a pleasant and unique way for people to share and express their times of great joy and sadness. At the entrance to the river, people had painted the rocks together as families, friends or lovers. Each painting shared their joy for birthdays and weddings, their memories of a lost loved one, thoughts on life motivation, and much more.

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It was unique because it didn’t take away from nature and the surroundings but instead added colour and humanness to the walk beside the river.

Celebrating 1st Birthdays.

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To husband and wife now at peace by the river.

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Quotes to keep going with the flow of life.

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I felt an added appreciation, not only for the beautiful ocean and river views, but also for the expression of people’s passage in time.

Next time I shall come prepared with my own pots of paint and will add my thoughts to the rocks too.